Forgiveness is a 4 Letter Word

Lawana Blackwell, an author from MS, stated that "Forgiveness is almost a selfish act because of its immense benefits to the one who forgives."  Forgiveness can be a life changing experience.  When we forgive we feel refreshed, rejuvenated, uplifted and peaceful.  We move forward when we forgive, instead of stuck in the past with feelings of anger, resentment and bitterness.  Forgiveness can lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion.

So if our lives are benefited in so many ways when we forgive, Why do we think of it as a 4 Letter Word?

One reason is that it's easier to hold a grudge.  It takes commitment to forgive.  It, also, can be very painful to relive the hurt or anger of the event in order to let it go.

Another reason is that many of us live in the world of ego and it will do whatever is necessary  for it's own survival.  Our ego may tell us that it's a sign of weakness and we should never humble ourselves.  It is more important to be right, than to be humble.  Our ego looks at the problem as "out there" with someone else.  Our ego needs to be strong and powerful. Our ego likes to "hold all the cards", have power over someone or something.  When you forgive, you relinquish that power.

Alan Cohen, says that "holding resentment and ideas of unforgiveness are like drinking a glass poison and expecting the other person to die."  Holding resentment within is harmful to the body.  Unforgiveness is a great waste of mental and physical energy, it's exhausting.  It can cause a whole list of physical ailments and mental distress.

From a spiritual standpoint, our pain and discomfort in any given situation is a signal that we are out of alignment with spiritual law (God) and are being given an opportunity to heal something. We are given an opportunity to release resentment, condemnation and disapproval.  This makes room for for joy, love and understanding. When certain ideas are cleared from the mind, it allows for new ideas to fill our consciousness.

Forgiveness is for us, not the other person. It is a renewing experience, a fresh start. Forgiveness and spiritual growth go hand in hand.  If you cannot forgive yourself or others, you cannot expect to change your consciousness. 

Forgiveness is a choice. Charles Fillmore, co-founder of Unity, said that we should practice forgiveness consciously as least once a day.  He suggested that we sit down at the end of the day, before retiring and mentally forgive ourselves and others for all offenses.

In Matthew 18 Peter asked Jesus "how often should I forgive. As many as seven times?"  Jesus replied "not seven times, but I tell you seventy times."

So forgive seventy times.  Forgive immediately.  Don't bury the pain and memories, release them.  Look to the future instead of the past.  As we release the hurt, we make room for God's love, peace, joy and happiness. 


Namaste